Getting Married Young, the Stigma, and How to Know if You're Ready

Podcast #2 is finally LIVE!

We’ve said it before, and honestly, we’ll probably keep saying it—life is messy and crazy busy. We’re going to try to be consistent with our podcast schedule, but no promises! (Grace, people. We’re working on it.)

Alright, this episode is a big one—one of the most asked-about topics: getting married young.

Coming from two gals who got married at 20, we’ve got some experience in this department. And if you haven’t noticed, the world is not exactly a fan of marriage. Which, honestly, isn’t surprising—marriage is a beautiful gift from God, so of course, the enemy wants to distort and destroy it. Culture pushes independence, success, and “finding yourself” over committing to one person for life. It tells us that marriage is just a piece of paper or something to put off until you’ve “lived enough.” But Scripture paints a very different picture.

Genesis 2:18 – “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Marriage was God’s design from the very beginning. It’s not just about romance—it’s about sacrifice, covenant, and daily choosing to serve your spouse, just as Christ did for us.

If you get married young, expect the side-eyes, the “But what about your career?” questions, and the Are you sure you’re ready? comments. People assume you’re immature, missing out, or rushing into something too big for you to handle. And while maturity does matter, let’s be real—age doesn’t determine maturity. Character does.

1 Timothy 4:12 – “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”

A young person walking in wisdom and godliness can be way more prepared for marriage than someone older but spiritually immature. It’s not about the number—it’s about your foundation.

Instead of asking, “Am I too young?” the real question should be:
“Am I prepared for the responsibility and covenant of marriage?”

Here are a few biblical truths that helped both Kate and me discern if we were ready for marriage:

1. Love God First

Before you commit to marriage, your love for God has to be the foundation. A healthy marriage starts with a secure relationship with Christ—not just strong feelings for another person.

Mark 12:30 – “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”

2. Marriage Requires Sacrifice

Loving your spouse isn’t just about serving them when it’s easy—it’s about daily laying down your desires, time, and comfort for them, just as Christ calls us to take up our cross.

Luke 9:23 – “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.”

3. You Are Already Complete in Christ

Marriage isn’t about finding your “missing piece.” It’s about two whole people coming together to complement each other and grow in faith.

Psalm 139:14 – “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

4. Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

Feelings come and go. Marriage isn’t sustained by butterflies—it’s built on commitment, daily choosing to love, honor, and cherish your spouse.

Genesis 2:24 – “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

5. Godly Community Matters

Surrounding your marriage with faith-filled believers will strengthen and encourage you, keeping your relationship rooted in biblical truth.

Proverbs 27:17 – “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

Marriage is not about checking off a societal timeline but about stepping into God’s design for companionship and purpose. It’s not an achievement to unlock but a calling to walk in faith. If He is leading you toward marriage young, don’t let culture’s opinions shake your confidence. Instead, seek Him, seek wisdom, and step forward in faith.